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Dear
Ale,
I hate being a moan but I'm getting so frustrated with my bf.
I feel like I am doing all the work in my relationship.
Now my oh is very honest and spends lots of time with me etc but he never surprises me with presents or does nice things for me. I am constantly buying him things I think he'll like, cooking for him and making compromises but he just plods along without seeming to spare a thought for me.
Am I in the wrong? Should I hold back more?
Sincerely,
Star
Dear
Star,
Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Everytime someone does something nice they expect something in return. If it bothers you that he doesn't act the same way, let him know your thoughts. Otherwise, I don't think you should hold yourself back if that is who you truly are. The main key is communication.
Signed,
Ale
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Dear
Ale,
I'm in a relationship and it is going down hill all because i don't know how to express my feeling so him and it is hurting hhim alot....I do love him with all my heart and I'm in love with him I can't let my true feelings out to him and it is ruining me relationship with him...He is in love with me as well..BUT it is tering him up all cause i don't know how to express my self to him....PLEASE HELP....TELL me how I can start showing him my true feelings!!!...we are struggling to stay together cause i can't open up to him....please tell me how!
Sincerely,
Tat2z
Dear
Tat2z,
There is probably something else other than not being able to express. I think that is an issue within yourself. In order to able to show your feelings for your love one, you need to make sure you understand what you are feeling. What is love to you? What is love to him? How do you know he is the right one, per say? My suggestion, write down your emotions towards your relationship. Don't show it to anyone, simply read it through. Once you feel prepare, you might want to move on to the next level and talk to your fiance about these things.
Don't rush yourself. Take it step by step. Work things out with yourself before approaching the situation. Let him know that you need some time to break from your shell. Patience is important.
Signed,
Ale
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Dear
Ale,
i'm a 32 year old male and i know this girl, she's 22, just out of college and she asked me if i wanted to go out sometime. the problem is i knew her when she was a teenager i met her when she was 15 and i was 25 i worked with her dad on their ranch. i was never attracted to her because well, she was a child and i thought of her as one and it never crossed my mind that i'd ever have feelings for her. well it's been 7 years and i no longer work with her dad and she's no longer a child, i still see them all from time to time and i come by once in a while to see the family, sometimes eat dinner with them. she's home from college, for good and asked me if i wanted to go out to eat or see a movie. i broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years about 6 months ago and honestly i'm considering it. she's sweet, level headed, we know each other pretty well, her parents like me, and she's really cute. it's the fact that she was more of a little sister to me all this time and now she wants to go out, we get along very well and laugh about the same things and like the same music, i look forward to seeing her, and she really brings out the best in me, i'm usually a downer, but with her i'm funny and outgoing.. am i a monster for considering this or a pervert? it seems like people are doing this more and more these days, not that it excuses it. should i feel guilty about this? any opinions would help.
Sincerely,
Dcrown
Dear
Dcrown,
I think that if you feel comfortable and she feels comfortable with whatever relationship you end up forming, everything should be okay. Age shouldn't be much of an issue, you both are old enough to understand what you are doing.
Signed,
Ale
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